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Dear Revenge Lady,
I have a different situation. I'm in the Navy and am currently out at sea with shattered pride and a broken heart because of my ex girlfriend and her betrayal. While I was gone her exboyfriend seduced her. I realize women can get lonely and he took advantage of her when she was weak. I can't rest until I take revenge on him and get her back... I won't be home until half a year from now because I am deployed. But I can use that to make sure whatever I serve him is ice cold and painful. You seem like an expert on the act of revenge and justification, have you any ideas?
Thankyou.
Mark
Dear Mark:
You sound like a nice guy and I'm so sorry to hear of your plight. I understand you want to get her back but I have to tell you, it may not be possible. Nothing you can do will make her return to you. All you can do is see that six months is a long time and who knows what will have happened to them by the time you return. She may have a
change of heart. I don't think taking revenge on the guy is going to get you what you want. She is equally responsible for what happened. I could suggest some stupid revenge tricks but they don't seem appropriate in this situation because obviously it's eating you up, and since you are away on Duty, away from everyone, it is much worse. If I were you I would lay low, and cool my jets. Try to enjoy yourself in the meantime or find someone you can pen pal with to pass the time.
Take care,
Revenge Lady
Dear RL
My neighbor threatened to kill my two dogs. To “shoot the Pit bull in the head, and kick the Miniature Pincher across the lawn”. That night, my garage was broken into and all the contents were gone. Did I mention said neighbor has a “contracting business” and a large van to hold said contents? My one tenant came home that night around 2am and thought it strange that their junk van was not home? It never moves from the same rusted spot! 2 weeks later, they threatened to kill the dogs, once more. The MinPin got out, the kids probably did it, and now the dog is missing. Coincidence?? I think not!! This is a pussy dog that never wanders, and no dog control in 3 townships has seen the dog. My biggest concern is when will it stop? What is next? Arson, kidnapping of children?? These are recluse people and deserve to kicked out of the neighborhood! The police can only question them, other than that there is nothing legal that can be done since it is hearsay.
Revenge Lady I plead to u, do u have any advice, other than moving, to keep them off my ass, and well .. get sweet revenge, just revenge????
Eliza
Hi Eliza,
All kinds of scenarios spring to mind, many involving dog feces, van door handles, neighbor's yards, you get the picture. BUT I am loathe to suggest you do anything since they are clearly dangerous and it's best not to mess with people like this because who knows what they might do to retaliate.
My two cents
Revenge Lady
Dear RevengeLady,
I just found your website on the internet. I was intrigued. My problem, in the Reader's Digest version, is that my husband's ex-wife has made it her life's work to destroy me, our marriage, and my family. Ah, you think I exagerate! She and he have been divorced for 2 1/2 years. He and I met immediately before the divorce was final and became friends. Once the divorce was final we became better friends. I had been warned by many people (family and friends) that she is nutty as a fruit cake but I took it all with a grain of salt. As soon as she found out about me (they share a young son) she began an actively volatile campaign to "destroy" me. The day after she found out I existed, she went to my then friend's home, stripped naked and begged him to have sex. When he turned her down, she dressed and came to my office to cause disturbance there. She made a habit to come up with some sort of lie or another to tell him to "check out" in an effort to prevent his affection toward me and toward my children. We thought when we married this would slow but it only increased in intensity and frequency. Each and every week, she has changed visitation or refused it based on the intensity of her anger at my existence. In one month she telephoned our home over 200 times and texted his phone probably another 100 more. I have stayed away and held a very low profile because the child likes me very much, and her anger is directed toward me.
This is my husband's only child and he adores him. Long story short, he had sex with her almost a year ago. He thought since this is why she is making our lives miserable if he slept with her once then she would leave us alone. Stupid, I know, and sounds ridiculous but you would have to know what we have lived with. After he slept with her, she would threaten to tell me if he did not return. Yes, I have seen the text messages where she had threatened him. He was terrified she would tell me if he did not continue. After a while, and after she had enough ammunition, she came to me and told me they had been having an affair. Told me to look at our cell bills and see everything. I did. Each month there were multiple calls on them but of 50 calls 40 of them would be her initiating them. It was obvious what was going on. When she told me, I confronted him and he had a strange reaction and seemed relieved. He took full responsibility for the whole thing and has actively been doing everything possible to earn my trust. I have known for about seven months.
Now as if that were not enough, here is the thing. Since she brought this to me, she has taken on an even stronger campaign to hurt us. We are having to take her to court to have visitation at all with the child. Each week, again, she changes visitation although it is outlined in the divorce decree. My husband told her when this came to light that out of respect to me they would never be in the same room again and now picks up the boy at school on Fridays returning him on Mondays. We live an hour away from him. He is suppose to have midweek visitation but she flatly refuses to allow that. She told him if he did not continue the affair she would do a list of things that she has done and is continuing to do. She turned him into the Child Support Enforcement Office as failing to pay his child support obligations. After the investigation, they found he was always $300 ahead. Now she is taking us to civil court to sue for the same thing again. The kicker is I refuse to talk to her or have anything to do with her but I write the child support checks. He refuses to speak to her, so she started calling my mother-in-law. She refuses to speak to her and so she started calling my phone numbers. A few days ago, an attorney friend of mine (not our attorney of record for our cases) called me to tell me she is going to have me arrested for harrassment. He explained to me that I can be arrested on a lie but my lawyer can handle everything when it goes before a judge. It is called providing a false police report. This all sounds so petty, I know but as I continue to ignore her calls, she gets worse and worse.
Now, how do I get revenge?????????????
At the end of my rope
Hi lady at end of rope,
This sounds like a big fat mess so I'm not sure taking revenge is even on the cards here.
Your husband has made a bigger mess out of a mess and if I were in your shoes I would be very concerned about his judgment. This is a thorny situation and it's not going to be ironed out easily. Your husband has to take a hard line with this woman to get her out of your hair (if that's what he can get behind)....the details of the divorce are going to be messy, it will take time to work them out, but he has to take a hard
clean approach to everything and end the phone calls once and for all. I'm concerned for you frankly - he doesn't sound like someone you can count on. As for taking revenge, it would only pour oil on the flames and you should stay out of
it.
My 2 cents,
Revenge Lady
Hi,
My fiance of 3 months recently called it off (if you could say that) by taking my ring and not calling me for 3 weeks. I do not think that behavior is appropriate, he should at least have the balls to tell me that he wants it to be over. He told me during these weeks that he was thinking about things, but never told me the results of his thinking, just left me to guess. I was thinking of bringing down his business for tax evasion (which is legitimate and legal for me to do). Is this too harsh? I don't want to do something out of anger, that I might regret later, or something unhealthy (maybe I should just move on and forget him). Thanks.
Celeste
Hello Celeste:
One trait that many men seem to share is cowardice, avoidance, whatever you want to call it. He is cowardly to not be able to face up to you and speak his mind. But this is the male animal and bearing that in mind, I do think bringing the business down is going nuclear and may be too much punishment.
What you might do is, instead of waiting now for some sign from him, send him a message, letter, email stating that your understanding is that the engagement is off, as evidenced by his silence. You are now free to date, which you are doing. And remind him (etiquette rules) that if the man
calls off the engagement, the woman gets to keep the ring (which you can cash in if you like for a nice vacation). Only when the woman calls it off is the man justified in taking the ring back.
Ask him to return the ring promptly so that the matter can be resolved appropriately.
That's what I would do. And then, forget him and go out there, girl!
Revenge Lady
p.s. don't hold your breath waiting for the ring to arrive - but at least you got the last word!
Dear Revenge Lady,
My ex boyfriend was the love of my life. When we met he told me that his father had been killed in a car accident and that his mother had terminal cancer. Despite all of this he had managed to get his life back on track and had purchased his own home. All went well and we moved in together, renting while he sold his own home. All seemed perfect until I realised he was having sex texts with another girl from my work.
Managing to talk his way out of this the relationship continued. I became suspicious of his stories and found out that his father was in fact alive and that his mother never had cancer. He never owned the home and had managed to persuade me to get credit on TV's and other home items until he had sold his house (when he intended to pay me back).
After a year and a semi nervous breakdown I ended the relationship. I have cleared the debt on my own (£10k) and he has never offered to help.
It is now 8 months later and I have just discovered he has taken a loan out with Bank of Scotland using my parents' address. The police will do nothing.
What would you do? I can't let him get away with this, please help.
Regards,
Jayne
Dear Jayne,
What a psycho nut job! Thank god you got him out of your life. I would say you and your parents need to approach the bank and alert them to the situation. Other than that, I wouldn't get involved with him anymore.
By the way, he wasn't the love of your life. You thought he was the love of your life but he was a big con man. There are much better guys out there.
All the best
Revenge Lady
Hi: RL
I need some help. I just turned 12 and my dad bought me a new computer. A month later my mom's boyfriend went on my computer when I was gone and changed my password. When I got home I couldn't go on my own computer. I was furious. My Mom was laughing. She pretended she didn't know what the password was. Two hours later she told me. Obviously she was in on it. I am more mad at her
boyfriend and I want to get him back. Maybe a good way would be to embarrass him in front of my Mom.
Alisha
Hi Alisha,
What if you got something delivered that he might have purchased on your computer. Something embarrassing, like a hemorrhoid treatment. Hand it over to him, say look what came, you must have ordered it on my computer. Do this all in front of your mom. And let's see who's laughing now.
Love,
Revenge Lady
p.s. They shouldn't be messing with your computer, I agree.
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